Parenthood

"Don't spoil your child!" A phrase many parents have heard. By definition, spoiling your child means indulging their wants, bending rules as they see fit, and breaking down all boundaries to fit their preferences. Thus, there are times when people mislable providing as an act of spoiling one's child.  People get so hung up to how they were raise and end up labeling things they were't provided as a child as a luxury and shouldn't be given to children of the present. It is unfortunate thhat children aren't always provided withtheor needs and at times this results to adults not being able to heal their inner child. This leads to a cycle of retribution for the past. As a parent, this is a cycle we must break. Despite anyone's opinion, parents sole focus must be on their child's needs and that these needs are provided without overcompensating.  If you can provided then why not. If you cannot orovide it then that's that. Look for an alternative or wo...

It is a gift to be a parent. It is true when they say children do not get to choose their parents. So as parents, they cannot choose the children that will come into their lives. Therefore, being parents is a responsibility and most importantly a privilege. We often raise our kids based on how we are brought up. Lines like "I will not do this when I have a kid", "I will provide this since I could not have it when I was young", "I will let my child learn as how I learned", and so much more. Along the way, we, as parents, tend to forget that we are not raising a version of ourselves we wished we had, but instead we are raising a whole new person who will one day make their way into the world we live in. All we could really do is guide them as they grow. There are times we could stick to learnings of the past and there are other times we need to align with the modern world. There is no manual in being a parent. It can be the hardest and the most challeng...

"My mom is crazy." Lines often heard from teenagers and I get it. Being a mother is mentally exhausting aside from the physical exhaustion, the hardest part is the emotional and mental exhaustion. It’s true, being a mother and a home maker is a full-time job without vacation. They think handing the child to the father is a break, but it’s not. A mother has to catch up with house work, plan and prepare things. Of course, being a mother, staying at home full time, sacrificing careers are all a choice, but it wouldn’t hurt to be appreciated for it. Sometimes, it’s hard to keep making effort when the only person who seem to appreciate it is the one making it. Call your mom, say you love them, tell them they’re appreciated, make them feel that their efforts matter.

Mothers or parents get usually judged when they celebrate the first year birthday of their children.  It's more than just celebrating the child's birthday, but it's also to celebrate the first year of parenthood especially for new parents. Even though it would be your second or third child every year or every time you raise a kid would be different from each other. That is the reason why the first birthday is so much more special. It would be nice if we could be kind to the parents who just want to celebrate the life that was given to them and the strength that enabled them to survive the first year of life or the first year of parenthood. Next time that we see a grand celebration for just a 1-year-old child, let's understand that it's more than just the child's birthday.

When you have a child, a whole new set of fears get unlocked. From being "You Only Live Once" kind of person, you suddenly second guess everything.  The biggest fear I would have is not be able to live long enough to watch my child grow. The fear of leaving too early. The fear of missing chances. 

Raising a child is just a fleeting moment. Everything that seems so endless will just fade into memory.  Sleepless nights gets better. Days get much more easier. Children get tougher. In a moment you are their world. The next second they create their own world.  Right now you decide whats best for them. Soon they take on their own responsibilities. As much as we want to keep them safe right beside us, they need and will learn to make mistakes and learn from them.  As much as we want to pass on our wisdom, they will build their own through their experiences.  As one once said "Us parents, we are just but a memory to our children." The best we could do is to make memories that will hopefully guide them into the right path and will strengthen them through out challenges.